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Say your piece – Without
disturbing the peace
Do you find it hard to say “No” when asked to work late (yet again)? Do
you feel pressured into taking on more work than you can handle? Is it
hard for you to ask for help when you need it?
These situations, and many more like them, show why good assertiveness and
negotiation skills are a vital part of maintaining a healthy work life
balance.
Whether you bottle up your frustrations and then explode, or end up
feeling like the office doormat, an inability to communicate openly and to
find an agreeable compromise will be damaging your health.
“One of the problems we hear about most frequently is that people feel
sabotaged by the demands of others. They find it difficult to deal with
these issues and stay in control of their feelings. They get very anxious
about such situations and end up feeling put upon and taken for granted.
They often feel resentful and angry – which is always bad news for your
health.”
“People do not realise that there are techniques they can learn to make
these situations more successful. We are not all born assertive or natural
negotiators but we can learn these skills and improve our life balance as
a result.”
Here are a following tips for those struggling with assertiveness or
negotiation.
1. Don’t be pushed into making instant responses. You need time to think
so make sure you take it.
2. If you know a particular situation is going to be difficult, prepare
well. Think about what you are going to say.
3. Like all skills, these need to be practised so make sure you rehearse
them and use them regularly.
4. Body language has a huge impact on how you are perceived. If you stand
like a victim you’ll end up being one. Look strong - be strong.
5. Do not rise to the bait of personal remarks – stick to the issues. If
someone’s behaviour crosses the line be prepared to end the encounter. Do
not stay around to be abused.
6. Listen carefully and be aware that your own biases and options will
give you a tendency to pre-judge. Try to remain open minded.
7. When using new techniques find a form of words that works for you –
adapt them to your natural style.
8. Practice difficult situations with a neutral party beforehand.
9. Know what it is that you want to get out of the situation before you
begin and then work towards that goal.
10. Believe you are worth it. If you are to negotiate successfully you
must believe you are worth the outcome you want.
People’s beliefs about themselves, their rights and responsibilities are
an important cornerstone.
Author: By Rabia Dhody
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Profile
Rabia Dhody
Human Resource Manager with a Leading
Indian Corporation
rabiadhody@rediffmail.com
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